How to Quit Trying to Change your Spouse

  posted by: Amber Ford



how to quit trying to change your spouseWe usually dream of having a partner who is attractive, seductive, charming, kind, patient, loving, and other ideal characteristics. We set our own standards. But most of the time, we end up getting the opposite. Then we try to change the person so that he/ she could meet our standards. But then again, we cannot always do it. We don’t always get what we want. There are things that we just need to accept for what they are and this is true for people. Let’s accept them for who they are. Stop changing your husband or wife and learn to embrace him/ her for who he/ she is. Let’s check some tips and ways on how to quit trying to change your spouse.

  • Look at you partner for who he/ she is. Pay attention to the good things that he/ she has. Don’t try to look for things that the person doesn’t have or else you will end up disappointed.
  • Be realistic. You should know that nobody is perfect. We are all imperfect. Your partner is no exception. You married a real person from a real world, not one from fantasy.
  • Don’t compare. Avoid comparing your spouse with other people around you. Every person is a unique being. We are all special in our own ways.
  • Love unconditionally. When you love someone, do not expect anything in return. When you married the person, you also married his/ her imperfections/ flaws. Now, there’s no turning back.
  • Avoid constant criticism. Criticizing your partner is good if it is done in a nice way but do not make it a part of your routine.

Loving someone, particularly your spouse is about accepting the person as a human being which means there are flaws in him/ her. There’s nothing you could do about this fact. You need to understand that you are also imperfect.




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Date: October 3, 2011 | Category: General
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